Living in the West, it's so easy to forget things.
We forget to build great relationships in our careers.
We forget to build strong support groups.
We forget to build self-honesty in our lives.
Instead, we look at the results and see who's best. Whether that's money, titles, possessions, etc. He who has the most wins is the name of the game.
Yet, what's sad about this "game" is that the winners don't realize they are losers until they are on their deathbed. On their deathbed, they will look back and see all the lost relationships, lost time, and lost opportunities. All for the sake of trying to get results.
And the worst part about people who experience this is that they can't do anything about it.
They have to accept that they lived their lives poorly.
So how can we avoid such a fate?
Well, it's best to look at all areas of your life and see how you can develop them better. For instance, let's take a look at the following:
Great social life? To improve this area, you have to go out and meet more people. Whether that's through hobbies, throwing parties, hanging out with friends, etc. To have a great social life, you have to constructively build it. People with crappy social lives tend to not be active socially.
Support group? To improve this area, you have to start being vulnerable to a select few people. And in return, these will make those select few vulnerable with you. With this honesty and vulnerability in place, you will have a support group to help you out during the trials and tribulations of life, like breakups, getting laid off, family problems, etc. Nobody can live life without getting the support they need.
Great network? To improve this area, you have to reach out to people in your targeted industry and start building relationships. And as time passes on, you naturally develop these relationships. Which makes it easier to ask for help when looking for another job. The best time to start building your network is when you're not looking for a job.
Now I can keep going, but the trend I am trying to stress here is that you need to build relationships in life. That's the key to improving all areas of your life. That's where the joy of life will come from. Being human means that we are social creatures.
It's having people in our lives that mean so much to us.
Yet, when we focus on results, we tend to destroy relationships in the process.
Whether it's the man working too much but neglecting his family.
Or the nerd studying too much only to realize he didn't build a social life and doesn't have any true friends.
Or the pickup artist sleeping with random women but realizes that nobody loves him.
Life isn't about results.
Life is about the people that you have in your life.
And when you realize the power you have in your life, you will start to constructively build relationships that will mean the world to you. Don't get me wrong, you may get hurt by others, but that's the price of building something worthwhile.
So as you live your life, don't forget to build the right relationships in all areas of your life.
Because in the end, those are the memories you are going to cherish.
Until next time,
The Charismatic Nerd.