Things that won’t make you happy
Been reading some advice from Buffet and Munger.
And one of their principles is to find common human errors and avoid them.
They straight up say they are not smart or have any secret formula. They just find what doesn’t work and stay away from it.
So with that in mind, I was wondering what doesn’t work in creating a fulfilling life.
What are the things that people chase that doesn’t bring them any happiness?
Because if we just avoid that, it would help make our lives better. And if we do this every day, say increasing by 1% with each day. It’s safe to say that you’ll more likely have a decent life.
Anyways, here are something that I’ve found to avoid in order to have a decent life:
Toxic People: there is no reasoning with people who are toxic. Whether it is friends or family, you have to cut out people who negatively drain you and/or stress you out. When you cut out all the toxic people in your life, you will experience more peace.
People who are meh about you: chasing people who are indifferent to you is a huge time waster. There are billions of people in the world, and maybe a million or more in your city. And you can find a bunch of people who will love to spend time with you. Those are the people you want to be around, not people who wouldn’t care if you got hit by a bus the next day. This applies to romantic interests, business, and social life.
Working at a place that requires you 10–15 hours of your day: some people might not agree with this. But that’s okay since this is my experience. The reason why I suggest avoiding this is that you have one life. One life to find love. One life to find and cultivate great relationships. One life to experience your life. When people sacrifice their lives for their jobs, they are missing out on the things that help us be human. They are missing out on exuding their true selves. And when it comes time to die, they will see their regrets.
Not expressing your emotions: emotions are part of the human being. Out of all the years of evolution, emotions have become integral for our existence. With emotions, we were able to create culture, societies, art, war, etc. When we suppress emotions, we are suppressing a part of our humanness. And we pay for it in countless ways through tension, feeling exhausted, not enjoying life, etc.. There are countess psychology books and resources that state suppressing emotions can be damaging to us. It’s one of those things we don’t realize until the damage is already done.
Not recognizing your own mortality: people today act as if they are going to live forever. As a result, this makes procrastination seductive, tolerating bullshit, and wasting time like there is an eternity. Countless ancient cultures always reminded people to be aware of death. To be reminded of death is to be reminded to live right now. Ironically, when you learn how to die, you learn how to live (got this from Michel de Montaigne)
Like I always say, life is simple, it’s people who complicate it.
We complicate it by not having the right values, by chasing the wrong things, and by continuously lying to ourselves.
A lot of people in the West can build a life they enjoy, where they are surrounded by people who genuinely love them, and by having a purpose they jive well with.
Mind you, it’s not easy, but it can be done when you live consciously.
So with the remaining time in your life, avoid the BS, and make the rest of your life the best years.