Short email today.
But an important topic I want to address.
It's going to be about friends.
I talk a lot about it because it's one of the most important aspects of life. And if we mess this up, it can add unnecessary challenges to our life.
But I digress.
I want to remind all of you (and myself) that you cannot go through life alone. Life can be such a massive challenge that it consumes and spit us out if we let it.
And although we need to develop ourselves to be the best we can be. We also need friends who love us enough to help. No one in the history of humanity could accomplish things entirely alone.
In history, myths, and fiction, the heroes get help from friends.
Yet, some of us think we can replace friends with books or online friends.
This is naive.
Even in my life, when I needed help, my friends were there and vice versa. But I understand finding great friends is a challenging task. It's like asking ourselves to climb Mount Everest.
However, finding great friends gives the same sense of accomplishment as climbing the tallest summit (okay, I'm being corny here). So if you don't have great friends, that's okay.
You can start the journey to find them.
I've made a lot of content on finding better friends (an email and YouTube video). But I'll give you a quick cliff notes review.
Have standards of what type of friends you want.
Make sure you meet your standards first (i.e. showing the traits you want in friends).
Be more social via social hobbies and practise daily social habits.
Initiate hangouts
See if these people meet your standards for a great friendship.
Then you can use your best judgement to see who is worth developing a relationship with.
Rinse and repeat for life (because you can never have enough great friends).
Before I end this email, let me share a quote from our Step-Daddy Gracian
"Just as the greatest strategy in cards is to know which ones to lay down, the greatest rule for living is to know which people make a winning hand."
So the next time you think you can go through life alone, remember that's a losing hand.
Until next time,
Bulcha
The Charismatic Nerd