The Key Thing in Being More Social
When it comes to being social, there is a lot of elements.
But for some reason, this one thing keeps getting missed for being a more social individual.
Even the book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, misses this key thing. And if you don't have this key thing, then even a book like How to Win Friends and Influence People won't help you with your social life in the long run.
Anyways, the missing key for building a better social life is knowing your true value.
When you know your true value, it becomes a lot easier to be social.
You can meet new people, chat, have a good time. And not come off as needy or putting the other person on a pedestal.
When interacting with people, you will treat them like any normal human being (that uses the washroom, jerks off, have emotions, etc.). And this will make them feel better around you as they realize they don't have to put a front for you.
Plus, if you are vibing with someone, you will naturally continue the potential friendship.
You will be the one taking initiative to deepen the potential friendship. Because you know what you want.
If the friendship works out, great.
If it doesn't, it's okay since you know your own value and you don't need people to validate your existence.
The reason a lot of people struggle making friends is that they don't value themselves. Which makes them come off as needy or desperate. Being in this state will make people try harder to make new friends, but usually to no avail.
When you know your value, you know the value of other human beings as well.
You will treat everyone with respect but will not allow anybody to use you as a stepping tool.
Knowing your own value is not the only key to a great social life but also a great dating life. Dating life is an echo of someone's social life.
So if you have your social life in order, your dating life will soon follow.
Anyways, that's it for this one.